Choose your site wisely …

• Some sites are just more naturally interesting than others for children and bear this in mind when choosing, particularly in the early days. Pompeii with its plaster casts of bodies and full size town is easy; foot high dusty ruins can be more challenging. Castles and dungeons are exciting, a long barrow, less so. For example, in the United Kingdom National Trust or English Heritage properties can be great for children as they often have themed days targeted at children, such as learning to joust, falconry or building dens.
• For older children, try to do Museums at Night, behind the scenes tours, visiting the site by candlelight, a Twilight Tour of the Tower at Salisbury Cathedral – anything that is different and out of the ordinary. This gives an added element of excitement and interest and tends to lead to increased involvement.
• A lot of museums have interactive displays, usually involving a screen, which children will instinctively gravitate towards. These can be really good, but screens are often broken or surprisingly dull unless specifically designed for children. They are still an improvement on many museums though and worth factoring in to your decision about where to visit. Just remember that great quantities of hi-tech and interactive exhibits don’t always mean a better experience for children. The very best one I’ve seen was in Malta and was no more than a simple projection onto the floor about the SS Ohio convoy in 1942. Children and adults alike stood spellbound watching the drama unfold in simple graphics.
• Living museums are great and I cannot praise them highly enough for keeping children interested and teaching them far more than artefacts in glass cases ever will. One of my favourites is Milestones in Basingstoke which not only has streets with shops, an arcade of playable antique fairground games, a 1940’s sweetshop that sells children their weekly ration of sweets, but also an Edwardian pub where adults can buy an actual drink. It was a happy day when we discovered that one. There is also Blists Hill near Ironbridge which is a full sized Victorian town and is fantastic for its detail and level of immersion. We had to change our money to pre-decimal currency in a Victorian bank before we could buy anything in the town. There was so much on offer, including a proper Victorian funfair, and so many activities for children to do that we could have gone there for two days and not done it all.

Blists Hill Victorian Town, one of the Iron Bridge Gorge Museums in Shropshire, England.

Fail to Prepare and You Prepare to Fail …

• Always check the basics beforehand – parking, food establishments in the area, facilities, and pushchair parks. Most of this information will be available on the site website.
• Site websites often have a kid’s area so always look at this first as it will give you an idea of how child friendly the site is and also if there are any special areas of interest or artefacts that are particularly interesting for children. This can help you plan exactly where to prioritise once you’re there. For older children that have screen access, the children’s area on site websites often have games and fact sheets that will give them an idea of where they are going and provide some basic historical facts beforehand.
• Read the Trip Advisor reviews before you go. You can take the opinions with a pinch of salt, but often people will point out things that you just won’t have considered for children (e.g. the pushchair park is a mile away from the main site, or you will be asked to leave your rucksack at the coat check and so won’t have easy access to your supplies).
• It goes without saying, but ensure you have more than enough snacks, drinks, wipes, sun cream, waterproofs and all of the other usual accoutrements that all parents have attached to them when out of the house. Put them in a rucksack and you’ll still have your hands free for dealing with your small people. Always put them in sensible shoes too as nothing stops exploration or induces moaning faster than tired feet.
• Sometimes it’s a good idea to tell your children where you are taking them for the day, and making a big deal out of it, sometimes it’s best to sneak the site in before the main attraction – “We’re off to the cinema this afternoon! On the way, were just going to quickly explore a 10th century ruin in the morning.” It’s a judgement call and depends on the age and temperament of the child. I tend to big up the interesting and interactive sites, the 10th C ruins I keep quiet about until the last minute.
• Know beforehand that you will only get to read about 25% of the information panels yourself. Make your peace with this and the visit will be far less stressful.

The visit …

• When you do have to take those overlong journeys, there is no shame in allowing your kids their screens if they’re old enough. It prevents any complaints before you’ve even left your driveway and keeps them, and therefore you, even tempered for your arrival at the site.
• If you are taking younger children, let them do some charging around before you go in, to burn off any excess energy.
• In each new place, don’t forget to designate a meeting point in case anyone gets separated from the group. Chose the tallest and most central spot you can. (Apparently there are now electronic child trackers available. I don’t know much about these but they could be worth investigating beforehand if your child is prone to wandering off).
• A great many sites will offer you a children’s trail as you pay to get in, be prepared for this and have your answer ready so you don’t stutter out an automatic ‘yes’. Parents either love or loathe trails. After 13 years of these, I am now firmly in the loathing camp. The idea is that they carry round a clipboard and a half chewed pencil to spot all of the mice hidden around the castle (or whatever the trail is), thereby keeping them motivated and interested in the site. They can be great for some kids. For mine however, when the children were very small we found that they raced through the property thinking that was all they had to do, so as soon as they had found the mouse, they were charging off to the next location and there was no time to look at anything else. I would try to point out an interesting artefact or objet d’art and they just didn’t want to know because it wasn’t on their trail. It also means that as parents, you are forced to carry their clipboards for them when they get bored and want to run off somewhere. We were stuck with trails for a while as well-meaning people would force them on us, refusing to accept that we just didn’t want the children to do trails, or I’d say an automatic ‘yes’ out of politeness when offered them.
• Fortunately we have now reached the point where the children themselves say a firm no to any proffered clipboards, knowing that the prize of a sticker at the end really isn’t worth the shame and hassle of carrying around a clipboard. That being said, I would highly recommend the trails in Milestones . We have done a couple of fantastic ones there, the best being a detective story where we had to find clues. This really is a case of trying it a few times, seeing how your children respond and if they get any real benefit from them.
• Alternatively you can always do your own trail, or find a good one online, which means you can tailor it in advance to suit your children and any areas you want to focus on. You will find plenty of information online, but you do need time on your hands to do this. The best trails have children looking for specific artefacts within the site, which can initiate discussion, rather than looking for a mouse or similar, which is nothing to do with the site itself.
• Guided tours can also be a feature of historical and archaeological sites. When I was a child, visiting historical houses usually meant a very long tour with someone droning on in while you stood behind a rope and had distant items pointed out to you. These were never targeted at children and could be very tedious. Things have come a long way since then and most stately homes now will allow people to wander where they wish and will often leave out a pile of toys for children to play with. National Trust places are very good at this and in the summer months will also put out a wide variety of outdoor games. Sadly there are a few places where the guided tour and roped off areas still exist, so I recommend using TripAdvisor first; something I really wish I had done before dragging my poor unsuspecting children around a stately home near Romsey, which will remain nameless, and subjecting them to an old fashioned slow paced, adult targeted tour, complete with ropes and everything. There wasn’t even a café to reward them with sugary items afterwards.
• This segues nicely into that other aspect of modern presentation of historical sites – costumed characters. These can be fantastic in some places, really adding to the ambience and helping your children to see exactly how the site would have been used by people in the past. The best example of this that I have seen is at the Roman Baths in Bath, where they had people in togas just wandering around and acting as they probably would have done. It really added to the atmosphere and made the visit something special. The flip side of this is that in some places, the costumed characters can approach your terrified child and start a conversation with them that they are just not interested in. For many years, my children preferred to stand back and watch rather than get involved, so being approached by a bewhiskered and very tall butler asking them questions can be rather intimidating. Warn your kids in advance if there are likely to be any, so they know what to expect.

Costumed characters at the Roman Baths in Bath, England.

• Many museums and sites these days will have an area where they have laid out costumes relevant to the time period for children and adults to try on. Mine just walk past these with contempt now but when they were younger, this was always a good way of getting them interested and giving them something to do other than just looking at objects. It can provide a welcome respite for the parents too as there is often somewhere to sit down for a few minutes, which is always welcome.

Dressing Up in the Salisbury Museum, Salisbury in England.

• Gruesomeness is a bonus. Children reach an age when they are fascinated by all things gory and grotesque. If the site you are visiting has any grisly stories, it’s always a good idea to find them out beforehand and promise the kids that they will see the spot where someone had their innards ripped out 300 years ago, or their head put on a spike. Tell them the story of what happened, slip in a few historical facts with the story and you will be amazed at how well they retain the information.

Gruesomeness in Mdina, Malta.

• 4D/5D cinemas are a must for children and if the site has one on offer then it’s definitely worth going in. We have seen some fantastic ones and it is such a good way for your children to learn the facts about a site. Mine still remember feeling rats tails brush the back of their legs in the seat when learning about the plague, or the way the chairs shook as the film took us on a carriage ride through medieval Vienna. Even teenagers will enjoy these, however much they try not to.
• Do a family photo competition if your children are older, these can work well to sustain interest on larger sites. Set the rules beforehand e.g. best picture of an amphora, first one to take a picture of a Latin inscription, best selfie in a toga etc. For younger children, taking a favourite toy round the site and taking photos of it in situ can also help to keep them engaged and interested.

Teddy in Pompeii, Italy.

• Allow time for exploring and going off route. In Pompeii we just let the children chose where we went and which street to walk down. It kept them really interested and let them feel like they were in control – we were able to spend an entire day on the site, saw everything we had wanted to and no-one moaned once. Keeping it fun, by playing chase or running around a larger site can burn off energy and keep them engaged.
• Exit through the gift shop but set a budget first. Use it as a reward for good behaviour round the site. Everywhere sells pens, bookmarks, fridge magnets that are affordable and yet desirable for small people.

Finally, I asked my children what their advice would be to get children interested and well behaved around historical sites. They both said the same thing – bribery. And that is definitely what I would recommend if all else fails.

If Staying Overnight/Going on a Historical Holiday

• Go out of the peak summer season so everywhere is less crowded (and less expensive) – October/May half term work well.
• If there was only one piece of advice I could give about cultural and historical holidays with children, it would be to always, without fail, chose a central location based on where you plan on visiting in the area. Overlong car/bus/tram journeys quickly lose their novelty and can just get very boring very quickly. When we stay in large cities for a cultural holiday, we pay the extra for a central apartment near the old town area as this is where most of the historical sites will be located. (Most cities have them; it’s usually near the cathedral or town hall). This means we can return to it in the middle of the day for a rest and to recharge before heading out again. You can pack more in this way, and you’re not stuck schlepping around sites for an entire day with the children getting more and more tired and cranky.
• Alternatively, consider a road trip where you spend a night near each of the sites you want to visit. It still saves on the backwards and forwards as you are on the move. We did a road trip around Cornwall and Devon, visiting as many historical sites as we could, and stayed somewhere quirky each night – a train carriage, a shepherds hut, a farm, a shipping container, a fairy house, a castle and a yurt. It took some planning, but we managed far more sites than if we’d been located in one place, and it really kept the momentum going. No one got bored on that holiday!

• Where possible, depending on where you are going and your budget, get a hotel/apartment with a pool/games room etc. This gives the kids something to do that is entirely unconnected with culture and history and something to look forward to doing when they get in at the end of a full day.
• This applies to visiting sites for the day too, but before you go, find age appropriate books about the place you’re going to and its history so your children can get an idea of what they will see and learn before you go. There are so many available these days including some fantastic ‘see inside’ books for younger children with flaps that show them inside a castle etc.
• Balance out the archaeological sites with time in the pool, beach, zoo, funfair etc. There has to be compromises when taking youngsters around historical sites on holiday and not overloading them is the best way to avoid complaints.
• Many sites and old towns are cobblestoned – wear sensible shoes rather than flip flops or your feet will not enjoy the holiday.
• If you’re on a cultural trip abroad, such as the Mediterranean, the different climates produce plenty of different wildlife. Any patch of scrubland will house countless lizards, wild cats, butterflies and assorted insects. Ideal for keeping little people walking, set them off lizard spotting and they will hardly notice the distances you expect from them around a site.

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